Epiphany– any moment of great or sudden revelation. My life has been a series of epiphanies for the last couple of months. I guess that’s why “Epiphany” by Staind is one of my favorite songs right now. Not because of the lyrics necessarily, but because the title simply reminds me of all I’ve learned lately.
Lesson #1. You Find Out Who Your Friends Are.
Granted, I already knew this on one level, but you really find out when you go through something difficult. You see who stands by your side, supports you, and in my case, buys you shots. I am truly blessed to have the friends that I have.
Lesson #2. Sometimes the thing you fear really isn’t all that scary.
Sometimes simply being afraid to make the wrong decision is bigger than the fear of what actually happens. Sometimes you just have to make up your mind and live with the consequences. And sometimes you know what to do, you’re just afraid to do it. And then sometimes, the decision is made for you. Then, you get to take that big sigh of relief, knowing it’s done and you can move on. And moving on isn’t nearly as bad as drowning in uncertainty.
Lesson #3. Anger gives someone power over you.
Being angry at someone gives them the power to control your reactions. They do this so you do that. Maybe that’s not true for everyone, but it’s true for me. I’m giving up my power to anger and to that person. And my power is mine. I’ll be damned if I give it up to someone who doesn’t deserve it in the first place.
Lesson #4. People come into your life for a reason.
When it was time for me to move on from two previous relationships, in each case, someone came into my life that kind of made that change happen. I was waffling, as I often do when trying to make a decision, and these people helped me to make up my mind. I call them catalysts. They were the tools that helped me to make a needed change. And my life is better for it.
So here’s to epiphanies and lessons learned.